Get Your Groove On

Wednesday, October 25, 2017

This is my face any time anyone asks If I want to dance. Hell yes I want to dance! Dancing is my favorite. This just so happens to be a week of music on my blog because my September and October Spotify playlists are now PUBLIC and ready to be heard by someone other than myself.

Listening To: Rationale

Monday, October 23, 2017

I like to pride myself in my taste in music. Granted, I'm pretty biased, but still.
I love sharing my music finds with everyone else because we all deserve good music.
An artist I've been LOVING for a while now is Rationale.

Me too.

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Seeing the "Me Too"campaign happening on Facebook made me stop dead in my tracks.
  So many people.

 I thought back through my life and thought "Those poor people. I'm so grateful I haven't gone through that." But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that I'm pretty sure most women have experienced at least sexual harassment. 

I have not (to my knowledge) been sexually abused. 

However, there have been times where I too have been sexually harassed. Where I was asked out on  a date only to be yelled at for me refusing to do sexual things to him. That because he paid for dinner, I should do him a "favor." (Not his exact words, I refuse to repeat the exact words.) 

There have been times I was walking back to my car only to be yelled at from guys saying things about me and my body and what they would like to do with it (my body). As well as I have received explicit messages from men also saying things they would like to do to my body.

 I had an authoritative figure when I was younger who would put his hand on my upper thigh when he called me in to his office where at first, I was too scared to say anything to him about how his behavior was not appropriate. The same man, wiped sweat from my upper lip one day. He just swooped in, wiped the sweat slowly, and then rested his finger on my upper lip for a moment before I had the courage to turn and walk away from him. I was 17.

I've been groped at concerts, walking in a store, and once during cheerleading pictures where a  football player walked past me and grabbed my butt.

I have felt fear hundreds of times by the way a man looked at me. I have walked in different directions to feel safer then walking past a group of men. I have been creeped out by comments made to me and stares directed towards me.

I am always highly aware of my surroundings and walk with a sharp object in between my fingers out of fear of being attacked.

I slept over (actually slept) at a guys house who in the morning told people that we did all sorts of sexual acts even though they didn't occur what so ever.

This is the society that we live in and it is not okay and it needs to stop

My body is MY body. No means NO.

This isn't just happening to women either. It can happen to anyone.

One night I was walking to my car on campus. It was dark. I was scared. I saw a group of men standing around that made me feel very uncomfortable, when all of a sudden, a group of my guy friends happened to be around and they walked me to my car so I wouldn't feel afraid. I'm grateful for men like that.

I'm grateful for the men in my life who do not treat women as objects. 

I'm grateful for men who protect instead of intimidate. 

I'm grateful for men who don't expect that because they are a man, that it is my responsibility to pleasure them just for being in their presence because I'm a woman.

I'm grateful for men that don't put their hands wherever they want on my body without asking me first.

I'm grateful for men who speak to me as a human being and not as a sexual object.

I'm grateful for men who respect my boundaries and don't try to force through them.

There needs to be more men like that.

To those who have experienced sexual trauma, speaking out does not make you weak. There is an army of people here to love you and help you through your pain. What happened to you is not your fault and you did not deserve it. 

Sexy Lady

Monday, October 16, 2017

I am very particular with the scents that I will wear. I've been wearing the same scent for probably 12 years now. (Which I will share that one with you next time.) I know what I like and I usually stick to it. Within the past couple of years, I've felt that I needed a more "grown up" perfume to add to my scents. I had no idea where to start.

I hate anything floral or powdery and I feel like most female scents are floral and powdery. I hate it. I like woodsy, musky, scents with a little bit of vanilla sweetness in there or straight up vanilla.

 I remember I was walking in to Sephora one day when I was hit with the best damn smelling perfume I have ever smelled. It stopped me dead in my tracks and I knew that I had to get a sample.

Because of the fact that scents smell different on everyone, getting a sample at Sephora is one of my biggest tips when finding a perfume to wear. Get a sample and see how it reacts with your PH. Same goes for men trying to find cologne. Another tip is Scentbird. You can get large samples of designer perfumes and colognes sent to you each month for only $14.95. The samples last a really long time too! I highly recommend joining Scentbird if you're looking to find new scents. It's how I found a lot of my new favorite scents.

Be Who You Are

Monday, October 9, 2017

I'm scared of pretty much everything.
I don't know what my favorite color is.
I'm a picky eater.
I hate to camp with every fiber of my being.
I don't understand why anyone enjoys watching Baseball.
I can't speak another language to save my life.
I cry any time I hear Coldplay.
Dogs make me feel like my heart is going to burst because I love them so much.
I could eat Tacos for every single meal and be happy.
I have insane amounts of anxiety.
I don't like wearing makeup.
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